Some gay men, or men who have sex with men (MSM) in general, prefer to engage in frot or other forms of mutual masturbation because they find it more pleasurable or more affectionate than anal sex, to preserve technical virginity, or as safe sex alternatives to anal penetration. This preference has led to some debate in the gay male and MSM community regarding what constitutes 'real sex' or the most sensual expression of sexual intimacy. Some frot advocates consider 'two genitals coming together by mingling, caressing, sliding' and rubbing to be sex more than other forms of male sexual activity. Other men who have sex with men associate male masculinity with the sexual positions of 'tops' and 'bottoms' during anal sex. Ĭuring anal sex, the insertive partner may be referred to as the top or active partner. The one being penetrated may be referred to as the bottom or passive partner.
Those with no strong preference for either are referred to as versatile. Some frot advocates insist that such roles introduce inequality during sexual intimacy, and that frot is 'equal' because of mutual genital-genital stimulation.
